by Katia Del Rivero

A client asked us to develop a selection process based on the Blumenstein Theory©.
So we designed a form that invites the possible candidates to talk about their personal and professional experience. In the process, they face their strengths, successes, needs, open subjetcs with their story and dreams and wishes for the future.
They identify more clearly what they can offer to the organization and what they need from the organization.
They place themselves in a place where they can evaluate the offer from the organization from an enoughness spot and not a need spot. And from there they can choose if the organization is useful for them or not. And what they need for their next step or not.
It’s a process based on the main concepts of the Blumenstein Theory: the needs of both parts must be equally weighed and valued for the co-construction process to be mutually beneficent.
When the “Heart” Is Still in History
In one of the interviews, a candidate talked about how after a 5-year job he had three more jobs in a short period of time. He couldn’t find them as appealing as the first one.
It seemed like he was looking for what he had in his first job and couldn’t find it. During the process, he identified what he missed, what he got and what he needed to look forward.
Another candidate during the process had the possibility to talk to his other ages self. The 20-year-old had his first job. The 25-year-old change it for a better opportunity. The 30-year-old got fired. The 33-year-old was able to start over again. And finally, the 38-yeard-old, his current age, wants to capitalize knowledge.
I’ve noticed during the last 20 years that when we don’t have our heart “complete” in the present, it’s harder to give the next step towards the future. In these days where finding a job is difficult, I believe it’s not the difficultness what stops us, but ourselves and our constructions that were left behind.
Where Are You Looking At?
Every time we talk about “where’s your heart” we talk about where your life energy is. Where your focus is.
When our heart is not in the present, it’s usually in the past. Is not looking forward.
Looking bad is useful to thank the past for what it gave us and for taking us to where we are. To find the resources and gifts that we’ve gotten through previous experiences. If you stay longer or for some other reason, it becomes a bottomless barrel where we lose our energy.
In other to transform, move, grow, develop we must look forward to the future.
The past can’t be changed, and we can build the future. Looking back is gloat ourselves in what can be different. Looking towards what we can and want to make is focusing on what can be built or developed.
What Do You Need?
Michael Blumenstein used yo say that the closing process meant “stop looking to the past and turn to look forward.”
It seems easy and some of us can have trouble with this. Because “we left tiny peaces of our heart behind”. In the job I loved, in the loved one I lost, in the friend I don’t see anymore, in the event that broke my heart, or that was so beautiful that I consider one-off.
The thing about this, the most beautiful thing, and the not so beautiful one is that is not in the present. It has already happened. It was amazing, but it’s over. It wasn’t amazing, but it’s over. And in those things that already happened, I can’t do changes, I can only change what’s yet to come.
So the question is “What do I need to look forward?” Maybe I need to let go something, maybe there’s something I don’t want to lose, maybe I want to “take something with me.”
Or maybe there’s nothing in the past and you just don’t know how to look forward or where to look for the future. Creating an idea of how we would like the future to be and how it should be different from the present is an invitation for the heart to place your passion in it.
What are you missing? What do you need to complete your heart in the present? What do you need to let go/take/learn from the past and place your passion in the future?
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