Here we have the second part of our article. Remember the first part where we said everyone has a right to an answer? Well, now we want to share that no one can answer your questions.

It seems self-contradictory and it isn’t. Let us explain.

It doesn’t matter the answer anyone gives to your questions. It doesn’t matter if the answer your given is open or closed, what matters is what will you do with that information. And it will be decoded according to three things:

1. – How interesting you find it
2. How well connected are you with your enoughness
3. What is the purpose you have with the other person your talking to

Is it interesting to you?
And by interesting we mean how different you find the information your given within the context of the question.

Your mind will find interesting the information that seems different to what you already know.

What happens when you don’t? Immediately, you’ll lose interest because your brain will asume “I already know this” and will change its attention to something new.

For you mind (and mine) to “decide” to take in new information, it has to offer a new perspective, something different, challenging to what you already know, etc.

Enoughness?
Enoughness is how we name the ability every living being has to survive,

Maybe you are thinking, “If everyone has it what makes it so special?” Turns out that sometimes, some of us forget that we have it. And when we forget our enoughness then our reactions will be little constructive or none at all.

For example, if something seems interesting and challenges what we think in a way that you feel your safety, your stability or your way of living threatened, is very probable you’ll react denying strongly what you are being told, instead of feeling open to explore.

What would happen if you don’t feel threatened? Or maybe even with a present threat you feel you can handle the situation? Is very likely that you’ll feel invited to explore, talk, dialogue, listen or ask more. You even might feel invited to share your own perspective without the need to disqualify others. Meaning, you’ll be able to contribute in a way that enriches, instead of closing yourself through denial or devaluation.

What do I wan to build with you?
This also has an impact on the meaning we give to the answers of the other person. If the other seems interesting to you, you’ll find the way to qualify as “useful” whatever they say and you’ll be more open to new interactions and constructing together.

On the contrary, if you find the person you’re talking to not interesting, for whatever reason, you’ll find a way to qualify his or hers answer as “of little substance”.

So, I answer my own questions
I cannot answer anyone else’s questions. Actually, no one can answer the questions of others. Just the person asking a question can answer it. He or she will decide to use or not the data offered in the form of an answer.

So in addition to the level of interest, my enoughness and my willingness to construct with the other person or not, there are some other factor that affect how I build my own answers, such as:

• The reality constructions we have regard the issue being talked
• The form the data was expressed
• The reality construction I have in relation to those forms
• The expectation I had about the answer to my question

Recognizing the contributions
In the face of a question, I can consider that I have offered enough data and that I have managed to give it an understandable structure so the other person can “receive” my answer. However, the other person always has the choice of giving to my contribution a completely different meaning. And it can even be that despite my best efforts, the other person still feels that I haven’t answered his or her question. And in a way, they would be right.

What is inconsistent from a co-creation perspective is if this other person blames me or makes me responsable for the lack of answer, particularly if I have done my best to offer one. What it would be consistent, would be to keep working together tuning my contributions or attempted answers until he or she has whatever they need to construct an answer on its own.

So, what do you think?