Versión en español aquí.

Usually after Michael had finished to share Blumenstein Theory® and people had experienced the distinctions that emerge from knowing it and integrating it, he used to say: When we learn to see the world in this way many things change. The good news is that “nobody is guilty” and then smiled with that smile of his infinite peace and ended the sentence saying the bad news is that “we are all co-responsible.”

Yesterday I was in Monterrey when the news of the shooting at the “regio” school surprised us. I watched the video that circulated on the internet probably five or six times.

The reason? I did not understand anything. My brain could not process the information. I did not understand what happened. I did not understand why some people collapsed, why other guys interacted with whom, at last I understood, had a gun. I did not understand … I just did not understand.

I think this is what happens to the brain when it receives data for which it does not have a processing frame. I had never seen a video of a school shooting. I know there have been several in the US and there is even a movie about it, but I’ve never seen anything like it.

Several tears ran down my cheeks and I could recognize the deep helplessness I felt foremost that.

And then I imagined the boy’s profound helplessness with the gun. What would have been his feeling, that his “best option” was to kill others and take his own life?

I also thought about the profound helplessness of his classmates. What could the little fellow student have felt that perhaps he did not understand what was happening and he did not know how to react?

The profound helplessness of all parents … I can not imagine the pain of losing a child.

The profound helplessness of the teachers and the profound helplessness of the principals. What would you feel if this happened for the first time in my country and in my own school?

The profound helplessness of the police officers. Particularly I think policemen in this country lives in constant helplessness, if not, they would not behave with the aggression and corruption with which many do.

The Governor’s profound helplessness. How difficult is it to be the first independent governor and to have to face how you have contributed to this, which had never happened, happens today in your state?

The profound helplessness of society. The profound helplessness in which we live today as humanity.

And, as Michael Blumenstein said, the more helplessness, the more aggression.

I can feel it in the harsh criticism I have read in social networks, in the devastating judgments that some have expressed, in evaluations of what should and should not be done. In “good conscience”, “I am better than you, because I do know how to behave in the face of these events,” the sensacionalism, the search for guilty, the analysis of “connotated” psychologists, psychiatrists saying “to know what happened and how it happened,” the “analysis” of the internet little boy that begins saying “I will comment, because my fans have asked me.

My own helplessness

By writing this article, I feel deeply helplessness before a society that does not seem to be able to process its sadness, its helplessness, its anger and is contributing to create more of the same that it does not want.

I feel deeply helplessness before a humanity that seems to have forgotten its ability to feel pain and remember its vulnerability. Today everything is hurry up, be strong, do not get tired, get up, you have to keep on. And in this strong sense we do not give space to our pain, our emptiness, until it explodes us in the face with a bullet.

I feel deeply helplessness before a society that seems to have lost its compassion (whose meaning is: a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering). I imagine it is simple not to be able to feel the pain of the other, when I can not feel my own pain and vulnerability.

I feel deeply hoplessness before a society that has forgotten its autonomy. And trying to find it seeks out and destroys, rather than build.

I feel deeply helplessness before a society that does not seem to know how to deal with differences and does not seem to have the capacity to process and integrate them.

I feel deeply helplessness before a society that has forgotten its ability to make distinctions and can say things like “how nice that the loony died” denigrating and totalizing the condition of a human being by his action.

We are all victims

I wonder why we have to point out and distinguish between aggressor and victims. Do not we really be aware that in the end we are all victims? Or are we all aggressors? Or as Michael would say, not to put a value judgment on the distinction, we are all contributors and co-creators of what we have today as a society.

But many times I think we like to blame only the one who pulled the trigger, because otherwise, we would have to turn back and ask: How I have contributed to the fact that we have arrived as a country here? What have I done and what have I failed to do to make this happen?

Today at the airport I was listening a chatter between a group of women, who apparently were mothers of boys from the same school where the shooting occurred. I was struck by the lack of pain about what happened. The comments were “that will never happen to me,” “of course, that’s a parent issue,” “that’s why I never let my kids do this.” In my construction of reality, it is the superb idea that we are better than others.

Maybe the day we remember that I am no better than you and that you are no better than me, that we are simply human beings acting sometimes from our sufficiency and others, from our helplessness, we begin to distinguish new ways to build together.

Perhaps the day we stop applying commercial self-help philosophies with which we can do everything, we need to strive, to be strong, to do it fast and never to tire ourselves to fulfill our dream (which, in my eyes, have done so much damage to thousands) we would allow us the permission to feel, to fall, to live our pains and sorrows, and to reach out together to stand together and keep walking together.

If you are interested in exploring more about this issue, on Monday, January 23 at 8:00 p.m. we will have a live chat to share about this topic. Just log in through Systemic Vision on Facebook.

Katia del Rivero

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