We are starting the year and advertising reminds us in a very particular tone. Practically all of it refers to the “new beginning”, “how to do it right” and “how not to let it go, because if you do it, you will ruin the whole period to yourself”.

The articles that are being published in social networks, media, and so on, are almost all linked with how to achieve in this year what you did not the previous one. This year will be your year!

Five years ago I had the idea of ​​writing this article for the first time, only that I did not have enough elements and I could not materialize it. Today I see again the phenomenon, I feel it again and thanks to Michael and what I learned in “Blumenstein Theory®”, I feel with more elements to realize it.

In those days, I was deeply saddened in that season, my brother had died on December 6th, of a cardiac arrest. In 22 days I did not feel ready to start “a new cycle full of life and plenitude and looking to the future” (read here with a sarcasm tone), I also did not feel this idea of ​​the new beginning, I was in a closing process, how to open something when I have not finished closing the previous one?

Yes, I know what people think, you just decide it and you do it. And yes, it’s just that not all of us are in the same moment / time of the cycle, nor in the same desire to decide.

This year the same thing happened to me. I could feel the immense social pressure of “turning to the future”, “starting the year without sadness”, “not stagnating in the duel”. At times I felt an additional demand, with the question of: why is not that what Blumenstein Theory® says “look to the future”?

And in some moment I got lost, I was about to fall into the temptation to move out of time, out of my rhythm, out of my possibility, to “run before I start crawling.” Would I be able to dishonor Michael’s memory by stagnating?

Where is this compulsion to start the new year and to start it happylly, comes from?

It is a construction of reality, social and generalized, that is useful until it ceases to be.

It happens that, as with many other constructions of reality, we forget that we create them to simplify our understanding of life and we transform them in a “so it must be” that contributes to generate the opposite creating complexity to our living.

Time is a reduction of the complexity that serves us and is useful to us, until life places us in a site where to follow it is very challenging. The calendar as we know it is a construction of human reality to give us a common frame of reference in relation to what we call time.

If we follow the Gregorian calendar the cycle begins in what we call January 1st, but if we follow the Chinese calendar then the year would begin the first day of the first lunar month (in 2017, January 28). If we follow the Jewish calendar it would be the first and second day of the seventh month, which usually corresponds to September / October in the Gregorian calendar.

If we move to life, and look at life, not all plants, fruits, animals and cycles occur at the same time, there are plants that bloom in spring, and there are others that we can only find them in winter.

So your cycle is not necessarily the social cycle. Start the year, felling sad, does not mean that you will be sad the rest of the year, unless you “make yours” social construction about it.

Start the year feeling happy, it does not assure you that will be the rest of the time. It seems to me that we have transformed many constructions of reality that originally were useful in “myths” that today are no longer.

What woud happend if you embrace your sadness when everyone is happy? What if you recognize that it is a different time for you when for others it is for joy or vice versa? The northern hemisphere does not get angry in winter with the southern hemisphere because it is hot there.

Is it okay for you to be in your winter, maybe alone, if you can ask how to get a good jacket? If you are in your spring, enjoy it!

And then the Blumenstein Theory does make deep sense, because it is not a framework of value. It is only a way to have a good life: follow your heart, give it your time, take what makes you good, loose what does not and look to the future when it is your time to change cycle.

By Katia