by Katia Ibáñez

This month we’ve talked about three topics:

• The importance caring, of not getting tired of contributing and understanding that sometimes our contributions are useful and sometimes they aren’t.
• The resulting impact of asking clearly, being aware of ourselves and our needs.
• And how is it that our decisions are guided by our wish to survive.
   Each of these articles are told through experiences and examples that came to me by this new adventure titled: “I’m a mom now”.

To finish we’d like to dedicate this last article of the month to what it seems like the only thing that the author of this article has found to keep her sanity since she first came in contact with this methodology: being kind to ourselves.

Learning this theory, understanding it, having the ability to give a lecture about it doesn’t implicate that we can apply it to our lives always and without mistakes.

As we mentioned earlier, social systems are living and changing environments BECAUSE HUMANS ARE ALSO LIVING AND CHANGING.

Imperfection is an inherent part of us. In the end, there is nothing perfect in the universe. Not even the universe itself.

Making mistakes, not making it “right”, not achieving our self-expectations, forget the theory, being overwhelmed by anger, frustration, pain or rage is perfectly normal and human.

After spiraling in these emotions there is always a new opportunity to make a new contribution, and I’ve found that the kinder I am to myself and my own process of trying and failing, the easier and sooner I find a chance to make a new contribution.

The outstanding fact about Blumenstein Theory©️ is that it’s designed to lead you a hundred percent to the future and its infinite possibilities. The past can’t be changed, you can only build and hope for what you want (remember that there are no certainties).

Then again, what has worked best for me is being kind to myself.

As Michael said many times, our concepts and precepts are just another way of many out there, for us to try to have a fulfilling life.

This is the one that many people, including myself, like the most. The thing is, how can you not love a proposal that tells you that you are enough just the way you are? How can you not fall in love with something that invites you to be kind to everyone starting with yourself? How can you not take in with all your heart a proposal that offers you a way of group collaboration and construction this efficient?

So, after understanding the basic concepts (Communication, Social Systems, Enoughness and Helplessness) the most important thing in this theory, and I really want to make emphasis in this, is: BE KIND WITH YOURSELF.

Whenever you don’t understand a concept, when you scream, feel sad, helpless, when you forget the 1–2–3, when you talk about the other instead of doing it from your heart, when you feel frustrated, guilty for asking, when you don’t feel like contributing, when you decide to close a social system: be kind with yourself.

Show yourself that you care enough about yourself to keep contributing, open yourself to your needs, remember that what you did, you did it because in the moment it seemed like the best way to survive and do it with kindness.

Our reality exists only in our heads, us and our concept of ourselves exists only in our mind. Let’s make that environment a kind one, an environment that lets you live a good life.