By Katia del Rivero

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Many years ago, in the first training I take about constellations, it happened to me many times that the facilitator saw something and I did not see it or saw something completely different.

When I asked, I was always told I was wrong.

For many moments I thought I would never learn to constellate.

Exploring with peers I discovered that many of them also saw something different from the facilitator and even different from each other.

How was it possible that in the same constellation practically every observer looked at something different?

Last year in a forum we have on LinkedIn I shared a photograph of a constellation and asked which is the dynamics they observe?

No contribution was, let alone equal, not even similar!

Where is the train going?

How does this happen? Is it then that the constellations are not reliable? Or are they not clear? Or do they have many stories in one?

Or perhaps it is that like any other phenomenon in life, it is only a phenomenon for who makes it phenomenon and only represents what it represents according to the observer.

Do you remember a gif of a train passing through a station and the question attached is: where does the train go, to the left or to the right? The “solution” is “where you choose”.

That is, you as an observer can choose which side to go. And the same thing happens in a constellation.

Each observer, whether representative, participant, facilitator or client, is going to “choose” where his constellation goes.

If each one chooses a different “direction”, which is the correct direction?

Particularly I think none, or all, depends how you want to look at it.

None, because none will be “absolutely true” or all, because for every observer “his truth is the truth”.

Hence the great risk of assuming as “true” the constellation shown by the facilitator, because this is only his truth and this truth does not come from the constellation, it comes from its history and its system of construction of reality.

What alternatives do they come up with?

1. Give value only to the customer’s eyes.

2. Ask the client if he wants to listen to different perspectives, reminding him that he always has the choice to take or leave these other looks.

3. Offering the facilitator’s one, emphasizing that it’s perspective comes from him and his history, not from the constellation.

When we can look at the relative history that “emerges” in a constellation we may learn to:

1. Use it as a tool, not as a framework for discovery.

2. Give relative value to emerging information.

3. Use it only as input to the construction of new ideas.

And now tell me, how many squares are there in the following figure?

Whatever you look at is right for you. You are the only one who chooses if new information “looks” more / less or you do not look at it.

So with the constellations.

In the ViSi training you will learn how to use the constellation as a tool, as a way to look at a different square than you have seen until today. You want to know more? Visit our site here.

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